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High (in)fidelity
That is infidelity and what counts as infidelity? Where do you draw the line between fidelity and infidelity? When have you gone too far? When you dream/fantasize of another, when you flirt or kiss? Or is sex the only thing that matters? Is infidelity always sexual? What is worst: a one-night-stand or a longer affair? Theese are common questions that pop up when you talk about infidelity.

Let he without sin cast the first stone
In ancient civilizations infidelity was punishable by death. 2000 B.C. In Mesopotamia (present Iraq)
a woman who was caught in bed with another man was tied by her hands and thrown in the river. According to the Bible infidelity is forbidden. The sixth commandment says ”Thou shalt not commit adultery.” But the Bible also says, in Joh 7:53- 8:11:
The scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman to the temple where Jesus was teaching. ”Teacher, this woman has been taken in adultery. Now in the law Moses commanded us to stone such.” Jesus answered ”He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” When they heard that, they went out of the temple one by one. Jesus was left alone with the woman. ”Woman, where are they? Did no man condemn thee?” asked Jesus. ”No man, Lord.” aswered the woman. ”Neither do I condemn thee. Go thy way, from henceforth sin no more.”

What do the experts say?
What drives us to infidelity? Family guider Sverker Wadstein says that it indicates uncertaint and a need of confirmation. In his work he meets a lot of infidelity. ”The ones who have been cheated on feel jilted and offended. Women have, generally speaking, easier to get through an infidelity. Women are more willing to try to understand why it went as it did. They have better contact with their emotions and can analyse the relation on a deeper level.
Men have -if you strain it- a lower self esteem and harder to understand the causes of the problems. The lack of self esteem makes it hard to ignore the bitterness and the hurt pride. Rather brake up with your partner than feel offended they can reason.”

Sometimes an infidelity can lead to a divorce.

Stronger bonds
Over 40 000 (44 065) readers participated in the Swedish evening paper ”Aftonbladet's” investigation about infidelity (see diagram). Men and women of all age-groups think that intercourse, closely followed by emotional infidelity is the worst form of all infidelity.
The older we are the more willing we are to forgive our cheating partner. The most forgiving is men and women over sixty. An older couple have so much to loose in a seperation. They have a lot to take to consideration besides themsleves. The cildren, the huose and the car. The emotional bonds are also stronger between them than between tpersons in their twentis.

It's up to you to judge
Now-a-days you don't stone your partner when he or she is having an affair. There is no higher council you can go to. Now it's up to you to judge. I think it's easier to judge harder when you havent any experience of infidelity. But is it ever forgiveble? Can the cheating partner get away with everything? Would you be unfaithfull if you really loved your partner?

Where do you draw the line between fidelity and infidelity?