To create a relation you have to dare to take a shot at it and drop your guards. If you don’t it’s impossible to create a really good relation, you can only have a superficial one. But if you do manage to create a good relation you always have to work on it and cherish it or it might vanish. Something you also have to do is to be able to communicate with each other. When you talk with someone you should preferably be able to see, hear and touch the one you talk to. It’s best if you have your faces on the same level, otherwise you have to bend your neck and then the body gets unbalanced which leads to the concentration in the conversation being disturbed. You should be within the range of an arm’s length so you can touch the one you’re talking to, if you’re further away from each other you might not see and hear one another that well. You should also be present with all of you not only your body, therefore it’s important that you don’t drift away in your own thoughts.
To create a relation you have to dare to take a shot at it and drop your guards. If you don’t it’s impossible to create a really good relation, you can only have a superficial one. But if you do manage to create a good relation you always have to work on it and cherish it or it might vanish. Something you also have to do is to be able to communicate with each other. When you talk with someone you should preferably be able to see, hear and touch the one you talk to. It’s best if you have your faces on the same level, otherwise you have to bend your neck and then the body gets unbalanced which leads to the concentration in the conversation being disturbed. You should be within the range of an arm’s length so you can touch the one you’re talking to, if you’re further away from each other you might not see and hear one another that well. You should also be present with all of you not only your body, therefore it’s important that you don’t drift away in your own thoughts. Through internet you neither see, hear nor touch the one you talk to. Then you make up how the person sounds and looks like and then it’s easy that misunderstandings occur or that someone lies. It’s very important to know how the person sounds and looks like when they’re talking to you because you don’t only speak with words but also with body language and intonation. When you don’t know that you don’t really know the whole meaning of what the person says or if he or she speaks the truth. Talking over the phone is a little bit better because then you at least hear each other. But you don’t see the person’s body language and it’s easy that you do a lot of things while talking on the phone and then the concentration is disturbed. I don’t say that you can’t chat or talk by phone, just that you should try to see each other once in a while so you get a better relation. Chatting and phone talking works like a substitute when you can’t see each other as often as you wish or need.
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